Presents of Mind
How Can I
is considered to be associated with playing a game, then let's consider,
for one moment, that our life is our game and you are the player
Thank you for hiring me as your coach. We have a lot of work to
Please allow me to set the stage for our work together by sharing
with you what I'm all about.
I have one purpose and one purpose only: I am here to help you win.
I will help you to play better and win more games. The games, the
rules, the definition of winning, they are up to you. But no matter
what, our objective together is for you to win. Everything else
we will do - and we'll do a LOT - is a byproduct of that single
win is not a common thing
I honor you for your courage; for your willingness to step out onto
the field and give everything you have to your cherished objective
- this game you love. Playing a game that truly matters takes guts
and heart. Most people choose to go through the motions in other
peoples games. Not YOU! You want to play your game and you want
to win. I admire you for that. It is not a common thing.
Winning takes courage because in order to win, there MUST be the
possibility of losing. If you can't lose, it's not really a game
worth playing. And losing is hard. The truth is, you will lose some
games, maybe a lot of games. But I promise you that each game lost
will teach us something about what we need to do to help you play
to win the next game.
Winning is a responsibility - But it's FUN
The funny thing is, that while winning is a thrill, it's hard too!
Winning requires dedication, a willingness to focus and to practice.
It also requires that you make sure your that whole world is in
harmony with you and your game; this takes some work But the biggest
challenge is that becoming a winner puts you in a position of responsibility.
Once you start winning, people will look up to you, they will count
on you and expect more winning from you. But if you are willing
to take the responsibility, it can be A LOT OF FUN!
How do I do what I do?
Well I have a process, a method, a way of working that is designed
to help you win.
Essentially we'll do five things:
Clarify your game
What game are you playing? Why are you playing it? What does winning
look like? What are the rules of your game and how do you keep score.
Basically, in this phase I'll be asking you a lot of questions and
you'll be doing a lot of thinking.
skills and strategy
We'll work together on practices that improve your skills. As your
coach I'll help you practice well so that you play well. Then we'll
work on your overall strategy as well as your game plan for each
Expand your awareness of the "inside game"
The simple truth about playing to win is this: the more you can
see, the better you will play. This is where the "inside game"
comes into the picture. If your thoughts or feelings or emotions
are mixed up - and you are not aware of it - it will take you out
of your game. We can't have that. We need you to be all there at
Design your winning environment
My ultimate job with you is to help you design the world around
you so that your game comes to life. Once your game comes to life
the rest is easy. We'll work on getting your friends and family
into your game in a supportive way. We'll organize your home and
office so that there are no obstacles that prevent you from playing
well. We'll create a support team to take care of the things that
help you win. And we'll make sure that there are people around you
who challenge you and inspire you.
Evaluate wins and losses and learn from them
On a regular basis we will evaluate your progress. How are you doing?
What have we learned from recent games? If we need to take a different
course, this is where we will do it.
How is coaching unique?
Often players wonder what distinguishes a coach from some of the
other wonderful helping professionals available. This is a BIG question.
Here are a few quick thoughts to create a basic understanding
A consultant will help you understand a situation and share expertise
I'll share with you everything I know if and when you need it. If
I don't have some expertise you need, I will help you find it.
A counselor will share wisdom and help you make decisions
When you are troubled it is very hard to play well. I'll do this
whenever your trouble is related to the game we are playing. If
it is outside the game, I'll help if I can. If not, we'll find you
someone who can help.
A therapist will help you heal wounds from the past
I have some skills in this area. But if the wound is too deep and
we need a professional, I'll help you find someone to help you.
Then when you are ready, we'll get you back into the game.
A psychologist will help you understand your behavior
Well, everyone knows that a coach is a part time psychologist because
the mental game is so important to winning. But if we can't figure
out where you are blocked, we'll call in an expert.
A trainer will teach you new skills
This is one of my main jobs as a coach. I'll teach you the skills
you need to win and I'll design it just for you based on your situation.
If we need to find you a specialist for some skill that you really
need that I can't teach you, we'll do it.
As your coach, I'll do any and all of those things when you need
me to. But only when they will help you play better and win more
Many professionals are trained to stay uninvolved; to maintain a
cool, professional detachment. And for most professions that is
wise. But I am not like most other professionals. I am YOUR coach.
Will I be involved? Do I care about the outcome? Do I have
a stake in it all?
Your damn right I'll be involved! I want you to win. I want
you to play well. I want you to be the best player you can be AND
I want your life to be great at the same time.
I DO have a stake in the outcome. If you win, that helps
me attract more great players who also want to win. THAT'S MY GAME;
To coach great players in BIG games. By helping you win, that helps
I promise to always keep my agenda clear and on the table AND I
will never put my agenda before yours. But I do have an agenda:
I want you to win.
I will console you when you lose. But it you don't play well, I
won't be happy; I won't say "It's OK". It's NOT OK! Get
your game together and get back out there!
I will maintain objectivity, though. I won't get caught up in the
swirl of your emotions; I won't internalize your situation. If I
did that I'd be of no use to you when the game gets tough. But I
WILL BE INVOLVED. I do CARE. I WILL LOSE SLEEP if it's not going
well for you. And I will dance with joy when you win. WE ARE IN
YOU WILL WIN!